Saturday, June 29, 2013

Standing Alone

Not too many years ago, the thought of gay marriage being legal would have been preposterous.  It was absolutely ridiculous to think that it could be a legally accepted practice, and yet so quickly, here we are.  This has really got me thinking and my mind has been churning. It does that a lot when things bother me, so I am just going to put it all down right here.

How did we get here so quickly?

Starting with the Baby Boomer generation, there has been a huge increase in divorce rates. Divorce has become the accepted norm. People don't have the staying power to just stick it out, make the best of it. Our society has become so enamored with feelings (which are so temporary), that those feelings rule the most important decisions of life.  "I just don't love him anymore." "Irreconcilable differences." "We grew apart." etc. etc. All these things are based on feelings.  The old attitude of sticking it out come hell or high water has vanished. So people take the path of least resistance.  And society suffers. Marriage has suffered.

Then marriage is degraded even more by spineless, haughty, egotistical Hollywood types who consistently say, "I don't need a piece of paper to tell me that I love someone."  And once again, marriage is degraded and debased to a worthless piece of paper.

Marriage has become so casual that it is like a masquerade ball, 'in' one season and then 'out' the next.  People wait to get married until they can spend a hideous amount of money on an elaborate celebration, high on form, but devoid of substance. Or they don't want to be inconvenienced at all, and don't get married at all. Just pretend marriage, but always with one foot out of the door.

And those elaborate, debt-inducing ceremonies end up in a divorce court only a few months or years later.

Or people are always looking for the bigger, better thing and make a mockery of marriage by jumping into and out of relationships at a sickening pace.  

Me, me, me, me.

Couple this with the massive amounts of empty pews. Everywhere across this country, empty, empty, empty. "I don't need a church to tell me how to be a good person." "I am spiritual, not religious."

I don't care what church...people just don't go. They worship at the alter of the New York Jets or Masters Golf Tournament or the Lake of Powell.  But not in a holy, sacred place where they used to learn to put off the natural man and follow Christ.

And so our society has so quickly lost its moorings. The foundation is cracked and quickly crumbling.

I have wracked my brain and tortured myself trying to contrive a logical, intelligent way of explaining why gay marriage is fundamentally wrong without linking it to my religious beliefs. Guess what? I have got nothing.  How can I come up with a cohesive argument with someone who worships at the altar of leisure and lasciviousness? Because it all goes back to what I know in my heart and what I believe because of the scriptures that I read. I can't prove it. I can't argue it away. And to believe in scripture, to believe in a God on high requires faith, endurance, patience, humility.

It is clear that the foundation of our society has been under a vicious assault over these past decades. Family is the foundation of society and strong societies are built upon strong families, and by this may I boldly declare a family as a married mother and father and the children of that marriage. Yes, I know there are other kinds of families, I get that. But what it all boils down to is that. Exactly that. It works. It is the ideal and what we should all strive to achieve. Anything else that tries to imitate and destroy that sacred structure is a lie.

I believe lesbian activist Marsha Gessen who lectured that gay marriage was a lie. The real intent is to destroy marriage. Oprah even preached on her show that she believes society has evolved past marriage.

I may feel like I stand alone here, but I am still going to stand and say unequivocally that gay marriage is wrong. I don't care how many pretty ribbons and trimmings you put on it, the package is stinky and an abomination. It is wrong.

I am not going to take the path of least resistance like these people here.

I want to be that guy with his arms folded. Right is ALWAYS right, even if you stand alone. I don't make my decision based on feelings or being one of the crowd. I know it is not popular. 

Now, in one fell swoop, I am considered a bigot, a homophobe, whatever.  It doesn't matter. I know who I am and what my relationship is to the people in my life and to my Father in Heaven. My record, my actions speak for themselves.

I take great comfort in this scripture..."Wherefore, ye must press forward with a steadfastness in Christ, having a perfect brightness of hope, and a love of God and of all men. Wherefore, if ye shall press forward, feasting upon the word of Christ, and endure to the end, behold, thus saith the Father: Ye shall have eternal life." -2 Nephi 31: 20

I must continue to have a perfect brightness of hope, and love God and ALL men. I will try my best to love everyone. 

Regardless, when it comes to gay marriage, I fold my arms boldly across my chest and I stand alone.


NormaKimokeo said...

I couldn't agree more. I want to print this entry of your blog and use it as an incredibly well-worded stance in a world that shouts opposition to the simple truth of the matter.

You should send this in to the newspaper. Let those in the "tall and spacious building" mock and deride all they want. Truth is truth.

Thank you for putting words to my feelings. I love you, and I'm proud of you for your boldness.

likeschocolate said...

Well said!

Rebecca Hunt said...

Beautifully written. I agree, you should print this somewhere. Wrong is wrong and right is right. Why do people think there's an in between? Why is wrong so hard to see? Love what you wrote and agree wholeheartedly!

Lindh Family said...

Jason and I were just having a conversation about this the other day, about how fast these changes have taken place. The only thing "to do" about it is to make your stand for what is right and you have. Nice post! Sure do miss you guys so thanks for keeping the blog updated.

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